Sunday, 31 March 2013

Self Improvement vs. Self Acceptance

By Mike Robbins

I had the honor of meeting author Robert Holden recently when we both spoke at the Hay House IGNITE event in San Jose, CA (which was an amazing experience, by the way).  Robert is someone whom I’ve admired for quite some time.  It was wonderful to get a chance to meet him in person and hear him speak live.  In his talk, he said “There’s no amount of self improvement that can make up for a lack of self acceptance.”

This statement really struck me and as I started to think about it more, I realized that so much of my life and my work is focused on self improvement.  And while there’s nothing wrong with me or any of us wanting to improve ourselves – too often we go about it erroneously thinking that if we “achieve” the “improvement” we’re after, we’ll then feel good about ourselves.  As Robert pointed out in his talk (and most of us have experienced this in our lives many times), it doesn’t work this way.

We live in a culture that is obsessed with self improvement.  We turn on the TV, look at magazines, take classes, read books, listen to others, surf the web and more – constantly getting various messages that if we just fixed, changed, and improved ourselves a bit, we’d be better off.  How often do you find yourself thinking some version of, “If I just lost a little weight, made a little more money, improved my health, had more inspiring work, lived in a nicer place, improved my relationships (or something else), then I’d be happy.”   Even though I “know better,” this type of thinking shows up inside my own head more often than I’d like.

The paradox of self improvement is that by accepting ourselves as we are, we give ourselves the space, permission, and opportunity to create an authentic sense of success and fulfillment.  When we insatiably focus on improving ourselves, thinking that it will ultimately lead us to a place of happiness, we’re almost always disappointed and we set up a stressful dynamic of constantly striving, but never quite getting there.

What if we gave ourselves permission to accept ourselves fully, right now?  While this is a simple concept, it’s one of the many things in life that’s easier said than done.  One of the biggest pieces of resistance we have regarding self acceptance is that we erroneously think that by accepting ourselves, we may somehow be giving up.  It’s as if we say to ourselves, “Okay, I’ll accept myself, once all of my problems and issues go away.”

Another reason we resist accepting ourselves is the notion that somehow acceptance is resignation.  It’s not.  Acceptance is acceptance – it’s about allowing things to be as they are, even if we don’t like them.  As Byron Katie says (and I often quote), “When you argue with reality you lose, but only 100% of the time.”

The paradox of self acceptance is that when we allow ourselves to accept who we are, where we are, what’s really happening, qualities about ourselves, aspects of who we are, and more – we actually set ourselves up and give ourselves the opportunity to make changes, improvements, and enhancements to ourselves and our lives in an authentic way.  When we obsess about and/or demand these improvements or changes “in order to” be happy, feel good about ourselves, or think we’re successful, it almost never works.

If you take a moment right now to think about some of the most important improvements and changes you’re attempting to make in your life, ask yourself this question, “What would it look like, feel like, and be like for me to fully accept myself in these important areas of my life?”

Most of the time it’s our own self criticism, perfection demands, and impatience that are actually getting in our way of making the changes, creating the success, and experiencing the fulfillment we truly want.  What if we changed our approach and with as much love, compassion, and vulnerability as possible, just accepted ourselves exactly as we are, right now!

http://mike-robbins.com/self-improvement-vs-self-acceptance/

Tuesday, 26 March 2013

The Psychology of Time Management

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The Law of Correspondence says that your outer life tends to be a mirror image of your inner life. Everywhere you look, there you are. Everywhere you look, you see yourself reflected back. You do not see the world as it is, but as you are—inside. If you want to change what is going on in the world around you—your relationships, results, and rewards—you have to take control and change what is going on in the world inside you. Fortunately, this is the only part of your life over which you have complete control.

The Starting Point of Success

The starting point of excelling in time management is desire. Almost everyone feels that their time management skills could be vastly better than they are. The key to motivation is “motive.” For you to develop sufficient desire to develop Time Power, you must be intensely motivated by the benefits you feel you will enjoy.

Gaining Two Extra Hours Each Day

Your productivity can dramatically change if you add to extra hours to your day. Two extra hours per day, multiplies by five days per week, equals ten extra hours a week. Ten extra hours a week multiplied by fifty weeks a year would give you 500 extra productive hours each year. And 500 hours translates into more that twelve, forty-hour weeks, or the equivalent of three extra months of productive working time each year. By gaining two productive hours each day, you can take control and transform your personal and working life.

Improving Your Productivity Performance

Your productivity, performance, and income will increase by at least 25 percent over the next year. Two more productive hours, out of the eight hours that you spend at work each day, is the equivalent of at least a 25 percent increase.

Increasing Your Sense of Control

When you leverage the power of time, you will have a greater sense of control over your work and your personal life. You will feel like the master of your own destiny, and a power in your own life. You will feel more positive and powerful in every part of your life.

Take Control of your Time and Your Life

The starting point to time management is developing a stronger internal focus. The more skilled you become at managing your time, the happier and more confident you will feel. You will have a stronger sense of personal power. You will feel in charge of your own destiny. You will have a greater sense of well-being. You will be more positive and personable.

Having More Time for Your Family

When you take control of your life you will have more time for your family and your personal life as you get your time under control. You will have more time for your friends, for relaxation, for personal and professional development, and for anything else you want to do. When you become a master of your own time, and recapture two hours per day, you can use that extra time to chase your dreams.

Take Action Now

Figure out how you can add two hours of productivity to your day. Make a schedule of your day and find where you can squeeze two hours of time out for maximum efficiency.


Thank you for reading this article about time management and how you can take control of your life starting today.

http://www.briantracy.com/blog/time-management/the-psychology-of-time-management-take-control-starting-poin/?lid=title

Forget Self-Help Books: Find a Source of True Inspiration

There are tons of sources for self-help. But to really get yourself motivated to succeed, you have to find a source of real inspiration.

An inspiring story or experience has the power to change your life or reinforce the path you're already on. It really does. But different things inspire different people.

Take business or self-help books, for example. They must work for somebody. Just not for everybody. Parables about cheese don't really cut it for me. As for other people's habits, they can keep them. All seven.

I actually did learn a few things from The One Minute Manager and What They Don't Teach You At Harvard Business School, but nothing inspiring. Nothing life-changing. And certainly nothing that inspired me to change. To be different.

Likewise, I find inspirational quotes to be of little value, except in the context of a moving story. I guess a lot of us lack the attention span or the time for anything but sound bites, these days. If it isn't 140 characters or less, forget it. It's sad. Really.

Here's the kind of story that I think is truly inspiring and motivating. Of course, I feel that way because, long ago, that's the affect it had on me. It inspired me to change course. It made a big difference in my life at a time when I really needed one. Maybe it'll work for you too.

It's time to start livin'.

I went through a rough patch in college. Guess I sort of lost my way. Three weeks before the end of the semester, I was flunking my major classes. That's when my girlfriend took me to see a student production of the hit Broadway musical, Pippin.

Pippin was the son of King Charlemagne. Since he didn't get much love or attention from his busy father, he was sort of a lost soul searching for purpose, his place in the world, his Corner of the Sky, as he calls it in one of the songs.

My heart went out to Pippin. I saw myself in him.

In search of himself, Pippin tries every kind of adventure a King's son can try: art, religion, war, sex, even tyranny. Nothing worked.

Lost, confused, depressed, and desperate, Pippin finally finds happiness in the one place he never thought to look: living a simple, modest life with Catherine--a widow he met along the way--and her son. The son of a king found fulfillment in the humble comfort of a caring family.

The play's musical score and lyrics were equally inspiring, but one song in particular really spoke to me. I've never forgotten it. To this day, it triggers a memory of a lost soul who comes to the sudden realization that life is about the little things. The simple things. Life is about living. No more, no less.
To this day, the chorus of the song No Time at All brings back all those feelings I felt that day more than 30 years ago:

Oh, it's time to start livin'
Time to take a little from this world we're given
Time to take time, cause spring will turn to fall
In just no time at all....

That play, that song, that simple lesson, that story that so resonated with me because I saw myself, my own desperation, in Pippin, is what inspiration--the kind that can motivate you to change your ways--is all about.

I went back and saw the play again the following night. It drew me like a magnet. And the next day, I changed. I really changed. I spent the next three weeks doing nothing but studying. No partying, no nothing. Just hard work. I aced my finals and never looked back.

To this day, when I'm lost, confused, desperate, I remember Pippin. I remember how I felt that day. I remember what really matters in life. With that perspective, I can see things clearly again. I figure out what I need to do. And I do it. And everything turns out okay.

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Your self-help toolbox: Tools for living your best life

So you're looking to live your best life, and you don't feel like you're making progress. Chances are, you might need a different set of tools to jump start your self-help process.

"I once went to a psychologist who didn't relate to my feelings or experiences, and it was so bad I just didn't go back," said Linda Burd Howard, a licensed psychologist and author of the book "I Can Relate to That! A Toolbox For Life's Journey."

Howard created her "healing toolbox" by drawing from her own experiences with anxiety, ADHD, depression, eating disorders, drug abuse, multiple divorces and family suicide.

"It's possible to be joyful in spite of, or even because of the pain you experience in life," she said. "I found that when I shared my struggles and experiences with my patients, they could relate better and heal faster."

Howard said our thought patterns or belief systems are formed in our early childhood through our parents, community and friends. These beliefs then becomes the filter we use to view the world, she said.

"So if you have a mother who tells you that your father cheats, you will grow up thinking it's a fact that men cheat," she said. "Everything that you see or do is going to have gone through that screen. So if you have a relationship and the guy comes home from work late, you won't have any evidence that he's cheated but that's what you automatically think."

And while these habits are hard to break, they can indeed be broken if we change our thoughts, Howard said.

"It's estimated that we have between 50 and 60 thousand thoughts a day and 95 percent of those are the ones we had yesterday," she said. "We keep feeding ourselves the same erroneous information everyday and we wonder why things aren't changing. The minute we recognize the patterns, we can start to change things. This cycle doesn't have to run you as an adult."

Here are just some of the tools Howard recommends we bring into our self-help tool box:

Binoculars and a magnifying glass.
"Binoculars enable you to look at your past so you can trace your behavior patterns over time. The magnifying glass is so you can see those issues clearly.

One of my issues from when I was a kid was being left out. So whatever happened to me in my life — I could be on a yacht in the Bahamas and I might still feel that I wasn't where the action was. If we know what our own issues are, then we get to have responsibility for how we act toward them. The great bonus of this is once you realize that these are your issues, it occurs to you that everybody has different issues. So then the whole world opens because you don't take their actions personally. It's just their issues coming to the surface."

Mittens.
"If you're wearing mittens you can't point your finger and blame somebody. Kids love to say, 'Susan made me eat this' or 'Johnny pushed me into the chalkboard.' Everything is everyone else's fault. Unless you are in an abusive situation where escape is physically not possible, nobody can make you do anything. And parents really need to explain to the child the importance of taking responsibility for your actions."

Life preserver.
"You have to know when it's time to surrender. We push and push when we feel resistance. Sometimes people will try to get somebody to like them and they do everything they possibly can to make this happen. It's a useless way to extend energy. You have to know when it's time to let go and stop swimming against the current. Just allow this life preserver to come to mind whenever you feel you're doing your best and getting nowhere. The moment you let go is when things will come to you."

Notebook and a pencil.
"This is bonding made easy. If you really want to bond with people in your life, just listen to them. Make a mental note of what it is that they like. Remember their birthday and send an actual card. Even calling someone and saying you're thinking about them. The minute you do something like this, you feel better about yourself. Whenever you open your hand to give something to somebody, it's also open to receive."

jweigel@tribune.com

Twitter: @jenweigel

Monday, 25 March 2013

7 Lessons From the World's Most Captivating Presenters [SlideShare]

It’s 7:54 on a frigid January morning in San Francisco. You’re waiting outside the Moscone Center, in a queue of several thousand people, many of whom have been camping out in the cold for over 12 hours. The security detail for this event rivals the Democratic National Convention. Another hour passes before you’re comfortably seated in a giant auditorium that’s crackling with anticipation.
Finally, at 9:43 a.m., the moment you’ve been waiting for arrives. The thin, soft-spoken man gracing the stage in his signature turtleneck and jeans, clears his throat, takes a sip from his water bottle, then pauses for a full 12 seconds before uttering these words:

"This is a day I've been looking forward to for two and a half years. Every once in a while a revolutionary product comes along that changes everything.”  

Such was the scene on January 9, 2007, when Steve Jobs unveiled the iPhone in one of the most captivating product launches in history. Indeed the iPhone was a revolutionary product, but it wasn’t the iPhone that inspired thousands of people to camp out in the cold over night. It was Jobs’ unique presentation style -- which Apple fans referred to as a “Stevenote” -- that helped make this among the most awe-inspiring, memorable keynotes ever delivered.

As Carmine Gallo puts it in his book, The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs, Steve “transformed the typical, dull, technical, plodding slideshow into a theatrical event complete with heroes, villains, a supporting cast, and stunning backdrops. People who witness a Steve Jobs presentation for the first time describe it as an extraordinary experience.”

At LeWeb Paris in December 2012, I had the opportunity to witness another kind of extraordinary experience. This wasn’t a product launch; it was a keynote delivered by charity: water Founder and CEO Scott Harrison. Scott shared the remarkable and very personal story of how a “spiritually bankrupt” New York City night club promoter found courage, purpose -- and a new mission in life -- on a trip to one of the poorest countries in West Africa.

charity: water ceo scott harrison
Scott’s presentation moved people to tears and drew a standing ovation. And that’s not the sort of thing that typically happens at a tech conference.

Last year at INBOUND, the world’s largest gathering of inbound marketers, before an audience of 2800, Gary Vaynerchuck did the unthinkable. No, it wasn’t “dropping the f-bomb 76 times” (he did, in fact, drop the f-bomb 76 times, but that’s not the “unthinkable” I’m referring to). Gary gave an impassioned, inspiring 45-minute keynote -- at 9 o’clock in the morning -- without a single PowerPoint slide. He had the audience laughing, cheering, and tweeting like mad. He, too, earned his standing ovation.

Gary Vaynerchuk at INBOUND
Steve, Scott, and Gary are three of the world’s most captivating communicators. Their ability to influence, entertain, and inspire an audience is incredible. And yet, their presentation styles are totally different.

What, if anything, do they have in common? What can we learn from them to improve our own presentation skills?

In a word: plenty.

Because even if you’re not the star of a highly anticipated product launch, or the CEO of an organization that is reinventing charity, or a best-selling author/entrepreneur who can say “F**K!” 76 times in 45 minutes and still get a standing ovation -- chances are, you’re going to be standing in front of an audience delivering a presentation of some kind at some point in your career.

So learn from the best. Take these 7 lessons from the world’s most captivating presenters, and apply them to your next presentation. You'll also find them in the SlideShare below, sliced up into 10 lessons.




LESSON #1: START WITH PAPER, NOT POWERPOINT.

Think back to the last time you prepared for a presentation. Did you start by outlining the story you would tell on paper? Did you then gradually weave in meaningful data, examples, and supporting points, based on that outline? Did you have a clear unifying message that your audience would remember even without the benefit of a transcript or notes?

Chances are, you answered “no” to those questions. If you’re like most people, you probably “prepared” by opening up PowerPoint the night before your presentation, cobbling together a few dozen slides from decks you or your colleagues have used in the past, peppering in a few stock photos, and counting on your ability to “wing it” in person.

 “The single most important thing you can do to dramatically improve your presentations is to have a story to tell before you work on your PowerPoint file.”
—Cliff Atkinson, Beyond Bullet Points

The world’s most captivating communicators know better. They carefully, painstakingly plan, storyboard, script, design, and rehearse their presentations like an Oscar-winning Hollywood director prepares their film for the big screen. They’ve seen the impact that a carefully crafted story can have on influencing an audience, and they know that skipping this crucial first step is what separates average communicators from extraordinary ones.

According to Nancy Duarte, the communications expert behind Al Gore’s An Inconvenient Truth, presenters should dedicate roughly 30 hours to researching, organizing, sketching, storyboarding, scripting, and revising the story for a one-hour presentation. (Later, they’ll invest another 30 hours to building their slides, and a final 30 hours to rehearsing the delivery.)

It takes 90 hours to craft a world-class, 60-minute presentation.

TAKEAWAY:

Don’t sell yourself short by jumping head-first into presentation software. Take the time to thoughtfully craft your story on paper before you even think about creating a single slide.

LESSON #2: TELL YOUR STORY IN 3 ACTS.

Most presentations follow some variation on the following format:
  1. Who I am 
  2. What I do (or what my company does)
  3. How my product/company/idea is different
  4. Why you should buy/invest/support me now
The world’s most captivating communicators typically rely on a three-act structure, more common in modern storytelling than in corporate conference rooms. The narrative is divided into three parts -- the setup, the confrontation, and the resolution -- and comes complete with vivid characters, heroes, and villains.

The following table provides a snapshot of the three-act structure and which critical questions are answered for the audience in each:

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Notice that this structure turns the typical presentation “flow” on its head.

Instead of following a WHO > WHAT > HOW > WHY flow, master communicators like Steve Jobs prefer a WHY > HOW > WHAT format, because they recognize that the first thing they need to do when standing in front of an audience is get them to care. So they begin by answering the one question everyone in the audience is silently asking: “Why should I care?”

From there, they focus on answering the question, “How will this make my life better?” and finally, they spell out the “WHAT,” as in, “What action do I need to take now?”

TAKEAWAY:

By structuring your presentation with a clear and compelling beginning, middle, and end, you’ll take your audience on an exciting journey … the kind that inspires action, sells products, and funds businesses.

LESSON #3: A PICTURE IS WORTH 1000 WORDS.

There’s a reason why expressions like, “Seeing is believing” and, “A picture is worth 1000 words” are so universally recognized -- and that reason is based in science.

It’s called the Picture Superiority Effect, and it refers to a large body of research, which shows that humans more easily learn and recall information that is presented as pictures than when the same information is presented in words.

In one experiment, for instance, subjects who were presented with information orally could remember about 10% of the content 72 hours later. Those who were presented with information in picture format were able to recall 65% of the content.

Picture Superiority Effect         Not only do we remember visual input better, but we also process visual information 60,000x faster in the brain than we do text.

Which of the following did you comprehend faster, for example?

visuals trump text
Sure, it takes more time to find and select awesome images to replace text, but master communicators know that it’s worth the extra effort to achieve maximum impact and maximum audience retention.

TAKEAWAY:

Images are wicked powerful. Use them liberally.

LESSON #4: EMOTIONS GET OUR ATTENTION.

Virtually every presentation relies on some form of data to illustrate or emphasize the core point. Master communicators like Steve Jobs leverage data skillfully -- but they also know that data alone ain’t enough.

Think of it this way: If data were sufficient to truly change the way people think or behave, nobody would smoke. Organized religion would have no followers. And who in their right mind would have unprotected sex with a stranger?

Clearly, humans are creatures guided by more than logic alone.

Science again comes to our aid in explaining how and why this is important. In his book, Brain Rules, molecular biologist John Medina has this to say about the role of emotion on the human brain:

“An emotionally charged event (usually called an ECS, short for emotionally competent stimulus) is the best-processed kind of external stimulus ever measured. Emotionally charged events persist much longer in our memories and are recalled with greater accuracy than neutral memories.” 

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Chip and Dan Heath further elaborate on the impact that emotion can have on persuasive communication in their book, Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die. The authors describe an exercise that Chip does with his students at Stanford University. The students are tasked with giving a one-minute persuasive speech. Everyone must present on the same topic, with half the class arguing for one point of view and the other half arguing for the opposite point of view.

After everyone has given their one-minute speech, the students are invited to rate each other on the effectiveness of the presentations, and then instructed to write down key points made by each speaker.

Here’s the data they collected from this exercise:
  • On average, the students used 2.5 statistics during their one-minute speeches
  • 1/10 of the students used a personal story to make their point
  • 63% of the class remembered details from the speeches that used stories
  • Only 5% remember the statistics that were shared
The Heaths drew this conclusion from the data:
“The stars of stickiness are the students who made their case by telling stories, or by tapping into emotion, or by stressing a single point rather than ten.”

Perhaps nobody more succinctly emphasizes the importance of making your audience feel than Pulitzer Prize-winning author Maya Angelou:
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

TAKEAWAY:

Make sure your presentation content goes beyond pure “facts.” Triggering audience emotion is a guaranteed way to increase retention and impact of your core message.

LESSON #5: USE PLAIN ENGLISH.

When Steve Jobs introduced the world to the iPod, he could have said something like this:
 “Today we’re introducing a new, portable music player that weighs a mere 6.5 ounces, is about the size of a sardine can, and boasts voluminous capacity, long battery life, and lightning-fast transfer speeds.”

But he didn’t. Instead, he said: “iPod. One thousand songs in your pocket.”

Jobs could have described the MacBook Air as a “smaller, lighter MacBook Pro with a generously-sized 13.3-inch, 1280- by 800-pixel, glossy LED screen and a full-size keyboard.”
Instead, he walked on stage with an office-sized manila envelope, pulled the notebook out and simply said, “What is MacBook Air? In a sentence, it’s the world’s thinnest notebook.”

Steve Jobs introduces the MacBook Air   Unlike most of his contemporaries, Jobs generally avoided complicated stats, technical data, buzzwords, and jargon in his presentations. Instead, he relied on simple, clear, direct language that was easy to understand, easy to remember, and better yet, was extremely “tweetable.” Jobs frequently used metaphors and analogies to bring meaning to numbers -- for instance, when he described the iPod as “a thousand songs in your pocket” instead of “5GB of memory.”

A closer look at some of Jobs’ most famous keynotes reads like a presentation in “headlines” -- powerful, memorable, specific statements that consistently add up to fewer than 140 characters.

Now take a look at one of your recent presentations. Is it buoyant with simple, specific, tweetable headlines? Does the script read like plain English that a 7-year-old could understand? Do you put data and stats in context so their meaning is clear and easy-to-digest? Have you ruthlessly pruned out all of the jargon, including overused, meaningless terms like “integrated,” “platform,” “leading-edge,” “synergy,” and so on?

TAKEAWAY:

If you want to improve your ability to persuade an audience, do your best Steve Jobs impression. Use simple language, free of jargon. Make sure your key messages are concrete and consistent. And don’t forget to use vivid metaphors or analogies to provide context and clarity around big numbers and complex ideas. 

LESSON #6: DITCH THE BULLET POINTS.

This may be hard to believe, but Steve Jobs never used a single bullet point. Not once. His presentations were always remarkable spare, relying on a few powerful images and carefully selected words or phrases.

Even during product demos where Jobs explains or demonstrates key benefits of a new product, his slides are refreshingly devoid of bullet points.

no bullets
As Seth Godin explains in a 2007 ebook called Really Bad PowerPoint, “The minute you put bullet points on the screen, you are announcing ‘write this down, but don’t really pay attention to it now.’ People don’t take notes at the opera.”

Seth’s right. Researchers have demonstrated time and time again that text and bullet points are the least effective way to deliver important information. Yet despite clear evidence that wordy, bullet-point-heavy slides don’t work, the average PowerPoint slide has 40 words. No wonder SlideRocket has found that 32% of people fall asleep during PowerPoint presentations, and 20% would rather go to the dentist than sit through another one!

Fact: the human brain has this function called “short-term memory,” which is basically the ability to process and retain a small amount of information at the same time.

brain
Think of short-term memory as your brain’s Post-It note. Like a Post-It note, it doesn’t have huge capacity. On average, our short-term memory can hold onto fewer than 7 items for no longer than 10-15 seconds.

So, imagine you’re introducing the world’s thinnest notebook. Replace the bulleted list of techie product features with a photograph of a large, manila office envelope.

Or perhaps you’re trying to inspire an audience to help your nonprofit end the water crisis? Skip the bulleted list of statistics in favor of a short, powerful video that shows rather than tells why everyone in the room should care.

The next time you’re tempted to cram a dozen facts onto a slide, remind yourself of the Leonardo Da Vinci philosophy that Steve Jobs frequently quoted:

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

Or take a page from Gary Vaynerchuk’s book, and ditch the slides altogether!

TAKEAWAY:

Guns don’t kill people. Bullets do.

LESSON #7: REHEARSE LIKE CRAZY.

As communications expert Nancy Duarte pointed out in Lesson #1, creating a presentation that informs, entertains, AND inspires an audience takes a lot of time. The first 30 hours will be spent researching, sketching, planning, and revising your story. The next 30 hours will go toward building simple, highly visual slides with very few words and NO BULLETS.

The final 30 hours will go toward rehearsing the delivery.

When was the last time you spent 30 hours rehearsing for a presentation?

Of all of the lessons revealed above, this one is undoubtedly the most often overlooked. Don’t be the person who does everything by the book, only to blow it all at the very end by failing to practice. A lot.

TAKEAWAY:

30 hours of rehearsing may be painful. It’s definitely time-consuming. But there are no shortcuts to excellence.

A FEW FINAL THOUGHTS.

On September 28, 1997, Apple debuted its now famous “Think Different” ad campaign, which featured a series of black-and-white images of iconic figures like Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King Jr., and Amelia Earhart. While their images flashed on the screen, the following words were spoken:

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square hole. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.”

The goal of the “Think Different” campaign was to sell computers. Notice how the word “computer” didn’t appear even once in the script.

I point this out as a final thought, because it summarizes a crucial, remarkable quality shared by most of the world’s most captivating communicators, including Steve Jobs, Scott Harrison, and Gary Vaynerchuk. They may have wildly different presentation styles, but they all have this in common:
They don’t just provide “information;” they convey meaning -- and they do it with passion.

They don’t simply tell people “what is,” they paint a vivid picture of what could be -- and then they arm their audience with a roadmap to get there.

World-class presenters like Jobs, Harrison, and Vaynerchuk aren’t selling computers, clean water, or wine. They’re selling the dream of a better tomorrow.

By applying the 7 lessons described above, perhaps you can, too.

http://blog.hubspot.com/blog/tabid/6307/bid/34274/7-Lessons-From-the-World-s-Most-Captivating-Presenters-SlideShare.aspx

Clement Stone Towered Afore The Self-Help Movement

At Stone's funeral in 2002, eulogies came from two top positive-thought proponents, the Rev. Robert Schuller and radio broadcaster Paul Harvey. AP

Like a lot of entrepreneurs, Clement Stone first peddled newspapers.

After being bullied by older boys who already had the best corners in Chicago, he decided to innovate.

He went up to diners in a restaurant and sold each of them a copy until the owner threw him out.

A few minutes later, he was at it again until he was given the boot.

The third time he came in, everyone applauded the pluck of the 6-year-old, and the owner relented.

Such persistence set Stone on the path to write the classic handbook for sales reps, "The Success System That Never Fails."

He would turn the ideas into an insurance empire and become one of the world's leading thinkers in the art of becoming successful.

Stone (1902-2002) had to start working early because his father died when he was 3.

 

Stone's Keys

  • Advocate of a positive attitude to help achieve success.
  • Overcame: Fear of rejection in selling.
  • Lesson: Don't overdo your planning; act fast on good ideas.
  • "To know where you are going and how to get there, you must first know yourself."
The family moved in with relatives, and his mother sewed at an upscale women's store.
Within two years, she was managing the store, then started her own dressmaking business and found an apartment where her son could join her.

Meanwhile, Clement had been hanging out with a bad crowd, playing hooky and smoking. She sent him away to a parochial school, where he learned self-discipline.

Scout's Honor
Back in Chicago, he joined the Boy Scouts, where he took to heart principles like being trustworthy, loyal, courteous and thrifty.

"You are subject to your environment," wrote Stone in his "Success System" best-seller. "Therefore, select the environment that will best develop you toward your desired objective."

By 13, he had his own newsstand.

His mother set the entrepreneurial example, pawning two diamonds to get the cash to buy an insurance agency in Detroit.

She moved there alone and worked hard to make it profitable. Stone boarded with another family until he could join her when he was 16 — dropping out of high school, but later earning his diploma.
He began selling accident insurance by cold-calling offices.

It wasn't easy, yet he found that repeating positive ideas helped motivate him. "I had not licked my fear of opening a door," he wrote. "It was necessary to develop a method of forcing myself to enter. I reason: Success is achieved by those who try. Where there is nothing to lose by trying and a great deal to gain if successful, by all means try. Do it now!"

Stone also discovered that if he acted confidently, he was less nervous. "The emotions are not immediately subject to reason, but they are subject to action," he wrote. "I found that if I spoke loudly and rapidly, kept a smile in my voice and used modulation, I no longer had butterflies in my stomach." It also helped to say: "I feel healthy! I feel happy! I feel terrific!"

Stone was an avid reader of self-help books such as 1907's "Power of Will" by Frank Haddock as well as learning lessons about living from the Bible.

He developed a detailed personal philosophy of achieving success on this foundation: "You are a product of your heredity, environment, physical body, conscious and subconscious mind, experiences .. . and something more, including powers known and unknown. You have the power to affect, use, control or harmonize with all of them. And you can direct your thoughts, control your emotions and ordain your destiny."

In 1922, at age 20, Stone formed his own agency, Combined Insurance Co. of America, with a $100 investment. By the end of the decade, he had 1,000 agents selling several hundred thousand policies a year and implementing his blueprint for advancement.

Constantinos Theodorou, author of "A Guide Towards Riches," lists favorite insights from Stone about reaching goals:

• Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.
• Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement.
• To every disadvantage, there is a corresponding advantage.

At the start of the Great Depression, Stone found himself $28,000 in debt and barely making payroll. The lights in the office were turned off several times because he hadn't paid the bill.

In response, he developed insurance policies priced to give his company only a small profit. That led to more sales volume than ever.

Yet Stone had another problem. His sales reps refused to believe they could sell anyone in the dead economy. With his agents dropping out, the boss realized he needed a system for training and motivating a new team.

So he spent more time in the field working with reps, sharing their ups and downs and inspiring them with his ability to convince most people they needed his policies. The new approach worked. By the end of the Depression, his company was bigger than ever.

Up With Hill
In 1952, a mutual friend placed Stone next to Napoleon Hill, the author of the 1937 best-seller "Think and Grow Rich," at a luncheon. They struck a deal to collaborate over the next decade.

Their most popular result: 1960's "Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude," which has sold several hundred thousand copies.

After the arrangement ended amicably, Hill formed the nonprofit Napoleon Hill Foundation to promote his work, which he ran until his death in 1970. Stone was invited by the trustees to become its chairman in 1983, and he remained its leader until he died at 100.

"Clement Stone was my hero," Don Green, executive director of the Napoleon Hill Foundation in Wise, Va., told IBD.

Green wrote "Everything I Know About Success I Learned From Napoleon Hill" and is a real estate developer who gives lectures in his spare time to community groups about the ideas of Stone and Hill.

Green wrote Stone to express thanks for his books and met him for dinner in Chicago in 1995. Two years later, he was asked to serve on the board of trustees for the foundation, and in 2000 he agreed to be executive director.

"As I've traveled around the world, I've found people in other countries paying more attention to the teachings of Stone and Hill," said Green. "They have their children go to special schools to help them excel, while American kids are obsessed with sports and video games. We love get-rich schemes, which is why something like 'The Secret' has such appeal, the idea that all you have to do is want something and you can have it. Stone taught that knowledge is potential power, know-how is putting knowledge to work. The real secret is to take action, not indulge in wishful thinking. Sometimes the ship doesn't come in; we have to swim out to it."

Good Outlook
In 1979, Combined Insurance reached $1 billion in assets. Stone's holding company went public the next year, with the ticker symbol PMA — for positive mental attitude.

In 1982 it merged with Aon (AON) . And in 2008, Stone's old firm was bought by ACE (ACE). The Combined Insurance unit had $2.035 billion in revenue in 2012 and still distributes Stone's books to employees.

Berny Dohrmann, chairman of CEO Space International, a business mentoring network, knew Stone as a child, since Stone was a friend of Dohrmann's father, another teacher in the self-help field.

"Clement Stone taught us all to not only live with a positive mental attitude everyday of our lives, but how to convey to others how invaluable this is in achieving goals," Dohrmann said. "He also showed us how you can succeed by being ethical and supportive of other people's success. His philosophy seemed to keep him eternally youthful; when I met him many years later, he was as energetic as ever."

By the time of his death, Stone had a net worth of nearly $1 billion and had given away $275 million, primarily to Christian, mental health, educational and civic groups, especially to what is now the Boys & Girls Clubs of America.

"His early life was similar to those of the young heroes of the novels by Horatio Alger Jr., which young Clement often read for inspiration," said Terrence Giroux, executive director of the Horatio Alger Association of Distinguished Americans. "These helped him to see problems as opportunities for growth and improvement, as he viewed the Depression as something that forced him to learn good work habits. Our association was fortunate to have two of the major early proponents of positive thinking, Stone and Norman Vincent Peale, as members and role models for its scholarship recipients and for their fellow Americans. Their teachings continue to benefit individuals and society."

http://news.investors.com/management-leaders-in-success/032213-649018-clement-stone-developed-positive-thinking-philosophy.htm?p=full

Saturday, 23 March 2013

How to Find a Higher Purpose in Your Current Situation


Opportunity
“Do you want to act differently? That’s not possible until you perceive differently.” – Byron Katie
It’s common for us to believe that if our current job or situation is not very fulfilling, there must be something more meaningful out there for us – something that would make a bigger difference and that would call on our deeper interests, talents and passions.

The net result of this belief is often disenchantment with our current situation and a feeling of being underutilized, stuck, or wasting our time.

What Money Really Follows
You’ve probably heard advice like “Follow your passion and the money will follow”. However, you may have found that this isn’t always the case. Why?

Money follows mastery, not passion. Mastery of what? Of creativity and service that people are willing to pay for. Passion can be really helpful in developing mastery because you’re more likely to put in the effort to develop mastery if you’re passionate about it. But if passion is not converted into consistent practice, sufficient mastery never has a chance to develop – the money doesn’t follow and pretty soon there is disenchantment and frustration.

Who Owns Your Increased Mastery?
No matter what situation you find yourself in right now, it has a higher purpose. You can choose to use your current situation as an opportunity for greater mastery of creativity and service, and a bridge to whatever is next. Who cares if you’re not appreciated or if your boss takes credit for your effort? You own your increased mastery, not your boss. When you work out at the gym, does the gym get the benefit of your workout? Of course not. You do.

From Vicious Circle To Upward Spiral
The main thing that needs to change about your situation is how you see it. See your current situation as exactly the perfect situation for you to develop greater mastery of creativity and service. Nothing outside of you needs to change. Your situation doesn’t use you – you use it!

If you feel stuck in any job, business or situation, it’s often because you have stopped bringing greater creativity and service to it. However, when you become a master of your service, more opportunities will always become visible to you. You’ll break out of the vicious circle of low levels of creativity and service, and onto the upward spiral of change and progress – and this incredible change can start right now.

So if you’re feeling like your current situation isn’t bringing you the fulfillment you desire, there’s only one question you need to ask yourself: “Given that my situation is what it currently is, how can I bring more creativity and service to it?” I guarantee that once you start focusing on the answer of this question, your situation will change tremendously.

We often think that unless we’re naturally gifted with certain skills, that the absence of this perceived advantage is what’s stopping us from achieving greatest. However, more often than not, it’s persistence, determination and practice that leads to success – as without these, our natural ability will only take us so far.

Why Happiness is the New Productivity (The Story of Mindvalley)

Founder of Mind Valley speaks about Flow, The Ultimate State of Human Existence, in a speech that is both inspiring and educational.




In 2009 Vishen Lakhiani was asked to speak at Engage Today in Calgary along with such luminaries as Sir Richard Branson, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Stephen Covey, Nobel Prize Winner F.W De Klerk, Tony Hsieh, the founder of Zappos.com and world-famous artist Wyland.

This speech won the audience vote as one of the best speeches of the entire event.

Vishen talks about Flow: The Ultimate State of Human Existence. He then shared 10 tips on how to master this state and how to bring it to teams, families, and groups you lead.

The video is just 39 mins. The last 13 mins are just Q&A with the audience (with a lot of jokes in between)

This isn’t what you’d learn about in MBA school. Vishen confesses he has no business training (his degree is in Computer Science). But either way, Mindvalley is growing rapidly and averaging 80% growth year to year every year for the last FIVE years straight. And this steller growth has been done without any outside investment, funded by just $250 Vishen used to hire his first website designer in 2003.

http://www.mindvalley.com/flow

Friday, 22 March 2013

My Best Advice: Getting the most out of your time


By James Caan

As someone who can have as many as 14 meetings during the course of just one working day I have always had to be extremely careful about how I manage the process and my time.

During the course of a normal working week I would expect to have between 65 and 75 meetings and I always do my best to ensure that they are always productive and result in some positive action being taken by those involved.

The key to achieving that goal is through a mixture of forward planning and preparation along with professional discipline during the course of the meeting.

Typically I would expect most meetings to last between 30 minutes and an hour. You need to leave yourself enough time to cover all the necessary business on the agenda. However, I tend to find that if a meeting goes on for too long then you can lose focus and that is why it is always important to be disciplined.

All businesses rely on good communication to thrive and the meeting is a key part of this process - therefore it is important that the system works as efficiently and effectively as possible. At least 48 hours before any meeting I will ask my personal assistant to get in touch with everyone involved and ask them for their thoughts and suggestions for the agenda. It's better to have all the right paperwork involved prior to the meeting.

As well as making people think ahead it also makes those taking part focus on the purpose of the meeting. There is no point in holding a meeting for the sake of it, there should always be a clear thought out process.

I would never go into an important meeting without an assistant or someone to capture the important points that may need to be actioned. If you are discussing an important strategy or development for your company then it is vital that you are free to focus on the job in hand. The chairman or woman's main objective is to keep everyone on track so ensure there are printed copies of the agenda and important information to hand, or better still put them on a large screen for everyone to follow.

A big mistake many people make at the end of a meeting is that they don't leave a section on the agenda to recap on everyone's actions. Many people go away knowing that there are actions to do but not necessarily what they are. I would encourage going round the room and hearing the actions that everyone is taking away with them.

Once the meeting has come to a conclusion it is also important that everyone who has taken part understands what conclusions were reached particularly if it involves them.

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https://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20130322112244-32175171-my-best-advice-getting-the-most-out-of-your-time 

Personal development: When to ‘lean in' to your career

The much derided term ‘lean in' came from Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg, but Jan Hills argues that the idea merits more praise.

Whether you are a man or a woman to lean into your career means to give it all you’ve got, to work hard but also to plan your career to fit your life. This is not life-work balance but career and life planning; understanding when you need to push forward and when to hold back, to take a break or take a role that gives you time for family or caring. It also means companies acknowledging that there are different phases in peoples’ career and planning alongside employees. Makes sense to me, even if the book by Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg (Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead) is getting some very critical press. Whatever your gender recognising and having the sense to manage different periods of your work life can only help you and the company. It could even replace outmoded policies about life-work balance.

So maybe the idea of ‘leaning in’ is worth another look, especially if it builds confidence.
But will this approach make the difference in the leadership of business, particularly with respect to getting more women into senior roles? The MPF HR leaders event (http://www.mpfglobal.com/groups/human_resources.aspx) last week looked at the issue of gender quotas to get more women into top jobs in large organisations. The numbers are still pretty poor.  There are just two female chief executives at FTSE 100 companies and in 2013 only 17.3% of women on FTSE 100 company boards. This is actually a fall in the percentage over previous years. Yet government targets call for 25% women on boards by 2015.

Research from Randstad about how women view quotas revealed that most (94%) did not want quotas and felt they would not help.

More interesting to me was the finding that 73% women felt the thing holding them back was self-doubt and a lack of confidence, while 84% felt this could be dealt with, but presumably their companies were not helping them with that? I would recommend they watch Amy Cuddy’s excellent video about how adopting confident poses changes the brain and ultimately confidence levels. You can also check out our Self Mastery cards, which are free at the moment, for tools and tips for gaining confidence and meeting your goals.

http://www.cipd.co.uk/pm/peoplemanagement/b/weblog/archive/2013/03/22/personal-development-when-to-lean-into-your-career.aspx

Making a Difference


Ask a room full of people about today’s state of affairs and most will shake their heads in dismay. Yet humans are a creative lot. If we don’t like what we’ve created, why don’t we change things? To change anything one must be conscious of both the problem and its underlying causes. Since beliefs determine behavior, the place to start is by exploring the distorted beliefs and misconceptions that lead to our present set of difficulties. In many instances, selfish, short term thinking leads to unethical behavior that lies at the heart of most of our problems. 

Many people know they act irresponsibly from time to time. Some fudging on taxes, occasional little white lies, disregard for the environment, favoring friends over strangers even when less worthy; these are a few of our common foibles. Relaxing personal standards at home and work encourages authorities on the world stage to do the same. International business scandals, widespread political corruption, unconscionable environmental degradation and even ethnic cleansing are magnified reflections of what happens everyday at the personal level. The chart on Institute of Ethical Awareness’ website (www.instituteforethicalawareness.org) shows how seeming innocuous unethical lapses can lead to planetary turmoil. No one is perfect nor are they expected to be, but continuous improvement is certainly a reasonable and worthy goal. The short ethics test below, can help us be aware of the semi-automatic reactions we tend to make when facing day to day decisions that have an ethical dimension.

  1. How am I affected by the choice being considered?
  2. How are others affected? Who and how many will be helped or harmed?
  3. What are the long-term consequences of my choice? Can I think of any unintended consequences?
  4. If the details of my decision were reported on the front page of the local newspaper, what would I think?
  5. What choice would I advise my child to make?
  6. Does it pass the smell test? Does it feel right?

Greater awareness of how our choices impact others encourages better decisions and improved conditions for everyone.

We can all make a difference one choice at a time.

David Schwerin www.consciousthinking.com

http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritual-blogs/masters/self-improvement/making-a-difference

Wednesday, 20 March 2013

4 Most Essential Thoughts that Influence our Entire Life

Our belief system holds our reality the same way the Earth holds nature. The way we nurture what we stand on determines what we experience. Our thinking process is a creative machine that takes in all the conscious and subconscious thoughts we let in our mind. Through the incessant filters of our accepted beliefs, dogmas and agreements, we establish our individual truth and let it shape the reality we experience daily. Thoughts come and go like waves and while some rise occasionally, not having a great incidence on our long-term life, others that I call master-thoughts, represent the very foundation on which our entire life is built. Those make the strongest structure around which our lighter thoughts gravitate and get rearrange to create our reality.

Because these master-thoughts are essential to the creation of our life, it is determinant that we wonder about their nature, their meanings and their effects. Thus, we can determine how empowering or disempowering they are. We can transform some if necessary or strengthen others as well. Here are the 4 most essential thoughts that influence our entire life. Bring awareness to them and become the influencer empowered to expand your life.

1 – Master of all Thoughts

The master of all thoughts is the one that stands on Love. We all are Love, embodied in human form, and experiencing Life through different and very unique aspects of itself. There is either Presence of Love or absence of it. With presence, any thought becomes empowered with love, in the absence of Love thoughts become empowered with fear. To determine which master thought supports our lighter thoughts is essential in the building of our life because the master thought is at the very core of the creative process. Love-based thoughts expand our reality giving room for higher vibrations and therefore greater experiences. Fear-based thoughts limit our creative abilities, diminish our capacity to experience and lower our innate potential to enjoy.

2 – Thoughts about Change

Change is inevitable and one of the most essential attitude we ought to adopt is flexibility of mind in the face of change. The way we perceive and experience change determines the easiness or the resistance with which we move through life. When we think of change as being part of who we are, we allow ourselves to become familiar with it and we simply follow where the energy wishes to flow. We must become receptive to the subtle and feel the guidance that shows us the way. To think of change as one of the most natural states of being-ness is to empower Life with a master that moves its flow with ease through acceptance.

3 – Thoughts about Self

Thoughts about self are most significant as they define the way we know ourselves, feel ourselves and share ourselves. The way we perceive our roles, our responsibilities, our beauty, our intelligence, our strength, our vulnerability and more, directs our choices and decisions. Our ability to know ourselves is a determinant factor of the way we explore our experiences and unfold our life. What we think about ourselves provides the structure for life to shape our reality. To become aware of what we honestly think of ourselves is to begin to master the flow that creates our days.

4 – Thoughts about Responsibility

Each time we place ourselves at the center of what we live and claim ownership of all of our experiences, we empower our thinking process with a strong sense of sovereignty over our life. To know ourselves as being an authority in our life gives us the knowingness that we can change everything, that we must accept everything and that we can make dream come true. Those disempowered with this sense of knowingness experience victimhood and a downward spiral existential life where life masters them instead of them dancing with Life.
To be in charge of our life is to own it, independently of what appears good or not. We must own all parts. We must embrace the good for the blessings it brings and accept the lesser good for the wisdom it teaches. Think responsibility and accountability as two influential pillars of an empowering life.

http://www.modernlifeblogs.com/2013/03/4-most-essential-thoughts-that-influence-our-entire-life/

Keith Rabois on the role of a COO, how to hire and why transparency matters

Keith Rabois has helped build some of the most important companies in Silicon Valley including PayPal, LinkedIn and Square.  In this session from First Round Capital CEO Summit 2013, Rabois shares what he believes the role of a COO is, how to find the best talent and convince them to join your company and why radical transparency matters.  The article below is not a transcript of Rabois’ talk, but rather an interpretation.  To hear his talk in full, watch the video at the bottom of the page.
  • Author: Rob Hayes - Partner
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The job of a chief operating officer
During Keith Rabois’ first week at Square, Jack Dorsey asked him to deliver a speech to the company about what exactly he would be doing as the chief operating officer.  Square was just 20 employees at the time, so it wasn’t clear what a COO would or could do for such a small company.
While crafting what he would say to the team, Rabois developed a simple metaphor for the role of a COO at an early-stage company: an emergency room doctor.  Just like in the ER, there’s always something broken at a start-up, it’s incessantly chaotic. There can be issues that seem to be just a cold, but they can actually be fatal if you don’t address and fix them early on. Also, there can be other kinds of issues that seem to be serious, but in actuality they’re just everyday colds and they’ll clear up on their own.
The same types of situations exist on the pure business side at any startup. There are opportunities that may look really interesting and potentially compelling for the business, but they’re really just a distraction.  Conversely, there are things that look like a distraction, but they could actually turn out to be really important and just might be gems.  The hard part of scaling is how to figure out those things and to find the truth in all of it — that’s the job of the COO.  You’re constantly fixing things.  You assess a problem or opportunity, fix it, put concrete down, leave it stable, then go on to the next thing.  Then, over time, if you lay a foundation and everything’s fixed, you can build on top of it.
Hiring the best — barrels and ammunition
Getting leverage as an entrepreneur is all about hiring the right people.  That sounds easy, but it’s actually really, really hard.
At the very first board meeting Vinod Khosla attended he said, “Ultimately, the team you build is the company you build.”
At a startup you can often be tricked into thinking you’re building a technology company and so you focus a lot on the product, but ultimately what you’re really building is a team to build the product and then the company.
It is the team you build that will dictate the outcome.  This belief should lead you to focus more on the quality of the people than anything else.
If you think about people, there are two categories of high-quality people: there is the ammunition, and then there are the barrels.  You can add all the ammunition you want, but if you have only five barrels in your company, you can literally do only five things simultaneously.  If you add one more barrel, you can now do six things simultaneously.  If you add another one, you can do seven, and so on.  Finding those barrels that you can shoot through — someone who can take an idea from conception to live and it’s almost perfect — are incredibly difficult to find.  This kind of person can pull people with them.  They can charge up the hill.  They can motivate their team, and they can edit themselves autonomously.  Whenever you find a barrel, you should hire them instantly, regardless of whether you have money for them or whether you have a role for them.  Just close them.
In addition to trying to hire all the barrels you can, at a start-up every marginal person you hire should be relentlessly resourceful.  There are people who are just better than others at getting things done, and those are the kind of people you need in large numbers early on.
If you can build a team that’s barrel-heavy and is relentlessly resourceful, your job as the leader of a company is really to just be the editor — a concept that Jack Dorsey has now made mainstream.  Every time you do something, you should think, “Am I writing or am I editing?”  You should be able to tell the difference immediately.  It’s okay to write once in a while, but if you’re writing on a consistent basis in marketing, or in legal, or in product, or business development, or whatever the case is, there’s a fundamental problem with that team.  Get into a position where you are editing all the time.
The analogy of an editor is great, because what an editor does is not the work product.  Think about a reporter.  The reporter writes the story.  The editor may ask clarifying questions.  The editor may simplify and extract things, edit things out or leave things in, or occasionally reorganize things that require follow-up.  But, fundamentally, editing is the role.
Diversity in hiring: Good or bad?
Ideally at a start-up you want to hire people who share first principles; for example, do they believe in closed ecosystems (i.e. Apple) vs. open (i.e. Google), or vertical integration vs. horizontal integration. If you don’t agree on these basic building blocks, you wind up getting into infinite loop arguments that impede execution.
Once you have people who agree on these first principles, then diversity in thought and background can create a lot of value – and it’s probably worth optimizing around.
When Rabois was building PayPal, they took this mentality to the extreme.  It was basically impossible to get a job unless you knew somebody currently working at PayPal.  They just hired out of their own networks, which ended up working really well because they were able to tap into people who were a little eclectic, idiosyncratic and slightly different – who were the perfect fit for PayPal.
How to win talent
When most people think about hiring, they often say (using a baseball analogy), “I would love to hire a third baseman who bats 320, hits 40 home runs, 120 RBIs and won a gold glove.”  Truthfully, there are two people out there who have done that, and everyone knows who those people are.  If you think you’re going to hire them in the early stages, you’re just kidding yourself. You’ve got to define what talent looks like for your company in a way that you can actually execute against and make it happen.  For Rabois this means you often hire people who are a little less proven and take a chance on them.  If you think someone could one day bat a 320 (maybe in a few years) but just hasn’t had the chance yet, hire that person because once they do bat 320 you probably won’t be able to.
At Square, Rabois did this via a large intern class.  Their last intern class was about 17, and the top four interns were probably on par with the top 10-20 percent of Square’s full-time employees.  Those were a group of incredible players who just haven’t had the chance to bat 320, but most likely will in the near future.
The one obvious challenge with this approach is that you need to become really good at identifying undiscovered talent.  However, there are a few leading indicators which Keith has found to work incredibly well:
  • The candidate can relay incredibly complex ideas in simple terms.
  • The candidate can see things you don’t see.  Even within topics you’re fluent in, they’re able to convince you of new points of view or make you realize you’re missing something.
  • They’re relentlessly resourceful.  There should be things in their history, whether it’s on or off the résumé, which conveys that they’re able to make things happen, against all odds.  If there is a wall in their way, they’ll go over it, under it or become friends with it.  They just make things happen and leave you wowed.  Any time you have that “Wow!” kind of feeling you need to just hire the person.
  • They’re often contrarian. Peter Thiel now has a popularized way of figuring this out. He asks, “Explain something that you believe, that everybody else believes is wrong.”
Who should lead the team?
At PayPal Peter Thiel had a philosophy about managers: essentially he didn’t believe in them.  He didn’t place any value on people who were traditional managers.  His real belief structure was that whoever is best at a particular discipline should run that discipline.  So, whoever is the best product person should run product, whoever is best in engineering should run engineering, whoever is the best businessperson should run the business, etc.  What this means is that you actually have a merit-acquired culture.  You don’t frustrate junior people because they know that the person leading them is better at their job than they are.  That said, there are a number of situations where this methodology can break down.  The actual skill of management can be challenging and isn’t intuitive for everyone – so you might wind up with an incredible engineer from a technical standpoint who struggles with managing people.
How to evaluate your team’s performance
In a broader sense, you can often figure out if your team is functioning well depending on where they are relative to where they’re supposed to be.  This might seem obvious, but if you have a team that’s 6 months to 1 year behind where they’re supposed to be, you have a huge problem.  If they’re just in time, and they’re exactly where they’re supposed to be, then you’re doing okay.  But if your team is 6 to 12 months ahead of where they’re supposed to be, you know you have a team that’s running on all cylinders—and you should be constantly searching for this kind of execution.  Simply ask yourself, “Is the team behind, just in time, or ahead?”
Why real transparency matters
In the early days of Square, transparency across the organization was taken for granted. It just seemed obvious to both Dorsey and Rabois that is how you build a well-functioning company—you make it incredibly transparent.  Ultimately, if you want people to make smart decisions, they need context and all available information.  And certainly if you want people to make the same decisions that you would make, but in a more scalable way, you have to give them the same information you have.  Complete information also helps reduce the politics in an organization, as one of the key drivers of politics in an organization is information asymmetry.
At Square everyone has access to all available information.  Dashboards are distributed throughout the organization.  All of the conference rooms are designed with glass, so there are no secret meetings.  In addition, every Friday there is a full company meeting for an hour, and the most recent board deck is reviewed slide by slide.  The only things removed are salary and option information, but Rabois has often wondered if it would be a more effective company if that information were to be shared too.
When Square raised capital in the past, they talked to the company in advance of the fundraising process to share the terms they wanted, who they were talking to, and if they got a term sheet (even if it wasn’t signed).  Even during the negotiation of the highly secretive Starbucks partnership, the hundreds of Square employees were kept in the loop throughout the entire process.  Howard Schultz came for an all-day meeting with the leadership team at Square on a Friday and, that evening, long before the partnership was signed and announced, Dorsey came on stage with a big Starbucks logo in the background and shared that they were working on structuring a partnership.  This kind of transparency builds a true ownership mentality and instills trust across the organization.  Ownership at companies is now almost a cliché, but if you really believe in it then you need to live it and share everything possible with as many members of your team as you can.
Most opponents to true transparency argue that you can’t trust everyone in the organization with highly sensitive information.  In Square’s early days, Dorsey shared with the team his desire to create radical transparency and told them this would be a privilege, and that they would be able to do it only as long as everyone respects confidentiality.  He continually has everyone make the commitment to each other and all of their families as he believes that their future livelihoods depend on it.  So, if anyone does anything stupid, they’re actually threatening their friends, their family and everything they’ve worked for.


Monday, 18 March 2013

How Not to Be Offended


There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of this art, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date. In other words, the majority of people in our world say and do what they do from their own set of fears, conclusions, defenses and attempts to survive. Most of it, even when aimed directly at us, has nothing to do with us. Usually, it has more to do with all the other times, and in particular the first few times, that this person experienced a similar situation, usually when they were young.

Yes, this is psychodynamic. But let’s face it, we live in a world where psychodynamics are what make the world go around. An individual who wishes to live successfully in the world as a spiritual person really needs to understand that psychology is as spiritual as prayer. In fact, the word psychology literally means the study of the soul.

All of that said, almost nothing is personal. Even with our closest loved ones, our beloved partners, our children and our friends. We are all swimming in the projections and filters of each other’s life experiences and often we are just the stand-ins, the chess pieces of life to which our loved ones have their own built-in reactions. This is not to dehumanize life or take away the intimacy from our relationships, but mainly for us to know that almost every time we get offended, we are actually just in a misunderstanding. A true embodiment of this idea actually allows for more intimacy and less suffering throughout all of our relationships. When we know that we are just the one who happens to be standing in the right place at the right psychodynamic time for someone to say or do what they are doing—we don’t have to take life personally. If it weren’t us, it would likely be someone else.

This frees us to be a little more detached from the reactions of people around us. How often do we react to a statement of another by being offended rather than seeing that the other might actually be hurting? In fact, every time we get offended, it is actually an opportunity to extend kindness to one who may be suffering—even if they themselves do not appear that way on the surface. All anger, all acting out, all harshness, all criticism, is in truth a form of suffering. When we provide no Velcro for it to stick, something changes in the world. We do not even have to say a thing. In fact, it is usually better not to say a thing. People who are suffering on the inside, but not showing it on the outside, are usually not keen on someone pointing out to them that they are suffering. We do not have to be our loved one’s therapist. We need only understand the situation and move on. In the least, we ourselves experience less suffering and at best, we have a chance to make the world a better place.

This is also not to be confused with allowing ourselves to be hurt, neglected or taken advantage of. True compassion does not allow harm to ourselves either. But when we know that nothing is personal, a magical thing happens. Many of the seeming abusers of the world start to leave our lives. Once we are conscious, so-called abuse can only happen if we believe what the other is saying. When we know nothing is personal, we also do not end up feeling abused. We can say, “Thank you for sharing,” and move on. We are not hooked by what another does or says, since we know it is not about us. When we know that our inherent worth is not determined by what another says, does or believes, we can take the world a little less seriously. And if necessary, we can just walk away without creating more misery for ourselves or having to convince the other person that we are good and worthy people.

The great challenge of our world is to live a life of contentment, regardless of what other people do, say, think or believe. The fine art of not being offended is one of the many skills for being a practical mystic. Though it may take a lifetime of practice, it is truly one of the best kept secrets for living a happy life.

Source: The Art of Not Being Offended, from Lightworks, by Dr. Jodi Prinzivalli

http://theunboundedspirit.com/how-not-to-be-offended/